LIVING IN FEAR

Below is information regarding a person who cannot remember when he was not terrified. There is doubt in my mind that he suffers from the fight or flight negative emotion of fear and paranoia.


He is over 55 years of age and has seen psychiatrists, and therapists on a consistent basis yet have never been diagnosed as suffering from the fight or flight emotion of fear and paranoia. He was prescribed countless drugs over the years, and none have worked.


Why not? The answer is simple. Drugs will never fix a learned behavior! His Story:


I was terrified all my life but did not know why. Little things like going to the store to buy a quart of milk, or going to pick up fuel for my car, terrified me; until I read Dr. Dispenza’s book; “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” and began to meditate using his step-by-step approach.


I have been searching in vain to find a "WHITE RHINO" who suffered like me, and got better.


I have said for many years that if I ever overcame my fear, that I would like to help sufferers like myself, overcome their fear.


I seldom have times when I am fearful and now have hope; before I had none.


I believed everything mom told me, as a small child.


I had no reason to believe otherwise, but she was also fearful; and lived in terror since she was a child. Mom became overprotective, as a result; she taught me to fear the world and everything in it.


My dad, on the other hand, was a perfectionist; and no matter how well I did a chore; he often found fault, and never thought to praise me.


As a father, dad had learned how to be a parent from his parents. They were both perfectionists, who very seldom praised him.


As a child, dad did not question what his parents asked him to do. They expected him to do his chores without praise. That was typical of the way things were then.


Therefore, dad expected me to do tasks without praise; not realizing that I suffered from the fight or flight survival emotion of fear.


After reading Dr. Dispenza’s book, I discovered that I not only wanted; but craved praise. Because I did not get it, I felt unloved and unworthy. For years I could not focus and concentrate so I gave up trying to learn anything new, because I could not remember anything for more than a couple of days. Through listening to Dr. Dispenza's meditation tape "rising water" I now love to learn new things and look forward to each day with hope and optymizm. Before I had none, and only looked forward to death to relieve me of my constant never ending mental suffering and pain.


"How many of you can relate to my story? I expect many!"


Dad now regrets not praising me for my accomplishments. He said if he had known better, he would have done better. Because of this lack of praise, I felt stupid, to the point of being almost, mentally challenged.


By taking three Cognitive Behavioral Therapy courses from age 47 until 51, I learned that I was not stupid. However, the CBT did not get rid of the fear.


According to Dr. Dispenza, individuals who live in terror, spend all their waking hours focusing their attention on escape; and as a result, find learning very difficult; so I learned almost nothing in school, or on the job, when I was working.


Individuals, like me who suffer from the fight or flight self-defense emotions quickly learn that showing their true self, ends in disaster. Sadly, they must live a lie in order to survive. That has been my reality; but as I get better, I will develop a new personality; and in doing so, I will be able to show my true self, for the first time in my life.


Until recently, I have just learned to survive; and thought about suicide constantly, to end the suffering. Thanks to Dr. Dispenza, I now have hope, and want to live.


The above testimonial of a sufferer of the fear symptom of the fight or flight response illustrates how devastating this condition can be.


Luckily, I did not live in constant fear, but for many, this is their reality, unless they overcome their fear.


According to Dr. Dispenza, reprogramming the brain of someone suffering from the symptoms of fight or flight response cannot be achieved at a conscious beta brain wave level, but is achievable at the alpha or theta brain wave levels. Dr. Dispenza has discovered that meditation brings the brain waves down to this level.


In his book “Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself” he lays out a “step by step plan” on how to use meditation to remove those negative self-defense emotions of the fight or flight response from the brain.


Although I did not suffer severely from fear, I was very shy and self-conscious as a teenager. In the last couple of years, I found it more and more difficult to fall asleep and had to resort to using two “highly addictive” Zopiclone sleeping pills to fall asleep. I have found that by listening to Dr. Dispenza’s meditation tape “Rising Water” at bedtime, I no longer have trouble falling asleep, and have almost eliminated the need for sleeping pills. I expect to eliminate them completely in the near future. As I wake up, I make a point of meditating while my brain wave patterns are still in the theta and alpha wavelengths. It has been my experience that I am the most creative and can think the best as I am waking up. I first noticed it as a university student at age 39 but never knew why. After reading Dr. Dispenza’s book the reason is clear.

The story above was of someone who took the flight approach to the fight or flight self-defeating emotions. Below is the typical response that a person suffering from these self-defeating emotions would undertake when using the fight approach in dealing with real or imagined threats. They are terrified of losing control and become very paranoid and fearful of almost everyone, particularly strangers. They love to be praised and boast of their accomplishments. They have real trust issues, thus seeking people who they insist must be loyal to them, and them alone. Their political and social views are extremely conservative and ultra-right. Despite enormous solid scientific and factual evidence to prove that they are wrong, they will hold dearly to their beliefs and blame others for the consequences of their actions if anything goes wrong. They tend to become control freaks, and if married, control their partner's every move. Deep down they want to be loved and respected, but become socially isolated as their extreme views tend to drive people away. They have a split personality, where they want to be kind and giving, but fear to do so because they feel they will be taken advantage of, but at the same time hate their bad behavior. Because anger follows fear, their anger is always just below the surface, so any slight provocation brings about an angry response, often followed by a feeling of guilt. They are anti-establishment and believe in conspiracy theories rather than the truth, no matter the evidence to the contrary. Because they will not accept no for an answer many become very wealthy. They hold on to their beliefs with a passion, and will never admit they are wrong, and blame others if they fail to achieve their goal. They rever the rich and powerful, and strive to be like them. They fear change and want to live in the past. As they are usually above average in intelligence and tend to look down on those they believe are of low intelligence. As they are fearful of people so they tend to dislike people, including themselves, but love animals because animals give them love without reservation, and never double-cross, or use them. They can never agree to disagree because they are sure they are right, and compromise is not in their vocabulary, even though a multitude of evidence points to the fact that they may be wrong. They see little value in changing their behavior because it works for them. They often make a great deal of money because they are powerful. As a result of their wealth, they get what they desire, which is more power and more money, so why would they want to change their behavior? They are perfectionists and the second best is never good enough, so they seek perfection in themselves and others to the extreme.